You know how some people just want to lose a few extra pounds? That was never me.
At my heaviest, 400 pounds, I was so morbidly obese that my body spilled out of two airplane seats. Little old ladies would gasp as I passed. “How on earth did you get so big?” they would wonder. Out loud.
I knew I needed to lose the weight. And oh, I tried. In fact, I tried thirty different diets, and I failed each time. The weight just stuck.
By the time I started to think about gastric bypass surgery, it seemed like I was up against an “impossible” goal. After all, I didn’t need to lose ten or fifteen pounds—I needed to lose the weight equivalent of one adult human being!
The good news is that I never went under the knife. And I did eventually lose the 215 pounds that before seemed “impossible” to lose.
So how did I do it? I followed a three-pronged approach. I attacked my goal on all fronts:
I replaced my diet with nutrient-rich, highly satisfying raw foods and fresh juices. That was the physical factor that helped me lose weight. But while changing my diet played a huge part in my success, just as important was changing my thinking.
Do you have a seemingly “impossible” goal, like I did? No matter what it is, it becomes more “possible” when your actions align with your thoughts and yes, even your spiritual beliefs. This kind of three-pronged approach can help crack that goal’s facade of “impossibility.”
Here’s exactly what I did, and what you can do, too:
Take Responsibility for Your Own Power.
For a long time, I played the part of the victim. I had figured I was so overweight because I had an obese father, a broken family, a stressful job, and the list goes on. No wonder I wasn’t losing weight! There were too many outside factors I could blame for my failures. So I did. Until I finally realized that I—and I alone—already had all the power it took to improve my life or to keep it stagnant (as I had been doing). I had to stop thinking that outside circumstances had any power over me, because in truth, they didn’t.
Believe You’re Worth It.
Do you deserve better from life? Subconsciously, many people believe they don’t—which is exactly what keeps them from reaching those “impossible” goals. They simply don’t believe that they are worthy of the rewards that come with beating that goal.
But you are worth it, and you deserve the best life you can create. I had a tough time with this before. I hated my job, and I didn’t much like my life, either. The only thing I looked forward to was my annual vacation, and even that was often disappointing. Lugging my 400-pound body (along with my luggage) through countless security lines and airplane aisles was no fun, but I guess I accepted it because I didn’t think I deserved better.
When I changed that self-defeating mind frame—everything changed. To get over the bad attitude, I would affirm that I love myself in the mirror daily. I know, it sounds silly, and sometimes I would even crack up laughing from repeating the notes I had taped for myself: “I love myself,” “I accept myself” “I appreciate myself.” But you know what? It’s a far more positive and powerful attitude to cultivate than “I don’t deserve this.”
Create Your Own Good Days.
We hear it so often: “Have a good day!” It’s a nice sentiment, isn’t it? But it’s got the idea completely wrong. You see, you’re not just the passive recipient of a great day—or of a great life, for that matter. You are actually the creator. So take a few minutes each day to write down exactly how you want your day to go. Don’t skimp on details, and don’t be afraid to go wild! When I did this, I imagined the freedom to travel around the world, the new girlfriend I had always dreamed of, new friends, new business partners, family and warmth, and plenty of love. I found little ways to incorporate these wishes into every day.
Why is this conscious “creation” of your days so important? Because all your days, strung together, create your life.
Trust the Universe.
When I realized that the Universe, God, Spirit, or whatever or whoever your spiritual beliefs align with, only has good things in store for me, good things started to happen. All it took was trust, and making my intentions known, along with taking consistent action that aligned with what I desired. Some people chalk my success up to luck. But I believe there’s no such thing as a coincidence and that someone, or something, out there really is helping us along. I decided to be completely open to whatever the universe gifted to me. And you know what? I got more than enough to be thankful for.
There you have it. Plug these practices into your life and see whether they, combined with the actions you exert to reach your goal, help to chip away some of that “impossibility.” Go for it, I believe in you!
What do you notice yourself saying is impossible or unlikely for you? Is it really true? How can you be sure?
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